Prakash Interviewed Once Again

Interview with the author Dr. Om Prakash

by Seth Greene

Award winning president of Marketing Magic

March 5, 2016

Read synopsis here

 

 

Seth Greene:

 

 

Today I have the good fortune to be interviewing Dr. Om Prakash.

Dr. Prakash, thank you so much for joining us today.

 

Dr. Om Prakash: You’re welcome.

 

 

Seth Greene: We are glad you’re here. Let’s go back in time a little bit to where did you grow up?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: I grew up in Delhi, the capitol city of India. We lived very close to the University of Delhi, walking distance from our home. All of us went to the university in time as we grew up.

 

 

Seth Greene: What did your parents do?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: My father was a clerk in the post and telegraph department of the government of India. My mother was a homemaker. There are six of us – five boys, one girl. Our sister was the apple of our parents’ eyes – we all adored her. All of us have graduate degrees, and three of us are here in this country. I helped two of them to come to US. These two live in California, and I am in Texas. My sister is a homemaker, and out of the two of my other brothers, one of them was the Vice President of a Rayon factory in Bombay, with a 15,000-labor force. He was a social worker by trade. He is retired now. The other one is an engineer who lives in the same ancestral home we all grew up.

 

 

Seth Greene: How did you get inspired to become a clinical psychologist?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: What happened was that I became a teacher in the same school where I graduated, from and one of my duties as a teacher was to counsel the local children because I knew them and grew up in that area. The headmaster asked me to start counseling them, so I started reading books on counseling, and that was the first time in my life where I helped children to learn what was appropriate and acceptable behavior in certain situations. So, that was my first experience how to help others in my earlier days. I taught in a high school, mathematics and physics, for about eight years to support my education while I lived at home, so that was the reason why I got interested in the counseling.

 

 

Seth Greene: You got interested in counseling, and where did you go to graduate school?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: This involves the story of my transformation. I wanted to become an engineer because I knew that India will need a lot of engineers when freedom came.

 

 

  So I had a transformation, and I need to tell you about that. I was involved in the freedom movement and at the end of the movement, I was imprisoned as a political prisoner by the British because I was a troublemaker for them.

 

 

During the prison time, I had a chance to think about my future. I knew all the people who later became important in the political circles. I had their trust,
but also I liked what I did as a freedom worker. I was a community organizer

for the movement, and I liked helping people because of my background in

helping children had transformed into helping people. I did not like the poisonous nature of politics and gave my political ambitions in favor of helping others. This was a transforming event my life and guides and inspires to this day.

 

  At that time, I changed my major from engineering to psychology, and I did a master’s degree from a university in India. I tried to enroll for a Ph.D. program at the University of Delhi, but my supervisor said, “Om, if you want to learn psychology, you have to go to the United States.” She recommended me to the University of Minnesota, that’s where I came to study psychology herself, and that’s how I ended up in this country.

 

 

Seth Greene: After you graduated, what did you do then?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: After I graduated, the first job I had was at the Austin State School for developmentally disabled persons. I worked there for about eighteen
months, and we stayed in Austin for a time. That was the start of my career.
  Then I had the opportunity to move up my profession and become a director of behavioral therapy in North Texas State Hospital, so we moved to Wichita Falls and stayed there for about ten years. Our son was born, when I was training in Kansas for my internship, and he was getting ready to graduate from elementary school. My wife said we’ve got to find better schools for him, so I called up one of my friends in Dallas and asked if there is an opportunity for me to move to Dallas. He called me back the next day and asked me would I be interested in working with a physician who was going to build his clinic, and wants to have a psychologist as a part of his clinic. I said yes. sure, I will. Next day I called up the physician. He said, “come on over, we need to talk,” and I drove to Dallas from Wichita Falls which is about 150 miles from Dallas, and we had an understanding. That was 1983 when we moved to Dallas, and I have been in private practice of clinical psychology for the last almost-thirty-five years.

 

 

Seth Greene: Has that been the same practice the entire time?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: Of course, I had two jobs. One was in Austin State School and the other one was at the North Texas State Hospital, but apart from that, for the last thirty-five years I have been in private practice.

 

 

  About 15 years ago, I trained for two years as a mentor coach, and I added coaching services to my practice. I have been providing coaching services for
about 15 years and clinical psychology for about thirty-five years.
Seth Greene: What did you wish you knew when you started that you know now?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: When I learned that connecting to your patients and coming in touch with their feelings is the key to helping them. I also learned that life happens in the present. The past is dead, there’s nothing you can do about it. The future – we don’t know what’s going to happen, so connecting with the present is the key to helping people.

 

 

  If there are issues in the past that have not been resolved, we pick up the these issues from the past, move them on to the present, and try to help the person to deal with them in the present because the past is dead and gone, all we can do is to deal with when life happens. There are three words that I describe the past with: honor it, learn from it, and let go of it. Living in the past will make you depressed because most of the time when we are doing okay, we never think of the past. We think of the past only when things are not going okay. And what part of the past would you be thinking? Most of the time, the bad part. And how would it make you feel? It will make you feel bad and you will feel depressed.

 

 

  This is what I learned over a period –of- time, and then the question still remains, ‘how do you help your patients and clients to remain in touch with the present? For that, I teach them mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness is present moment awareness, because as life happens in the present, connecting the present will help you to deal with the issues much more effectively.

 

 

  A lot of people are going through life like zombies, and they are not aware of what is going on in their life. So, creating that present moment awareness with the practice of meditation helps them to deal with the issues as they are occurring.

 

 

  I also use hypnosis in my work. Hypnosis is a state of intense inner awareness which allows a person to be able to go back to the issues that are still unresolved. We lift those issues and bring them to the present. This technique is called, The Affect Bridge. I use this technique only when the issues continue to disturb a person’s present behavior, so that we can deal with the issues but we don’t have dwell on the past.

 

 

  The future is uncertain, we don’t know what’s going to happen a minute from now, so you try to project as far as you can go. Because there are two types of people who stumble in life: those who look too far away and those who look too close. Project to the future far enough because that’s all the future you need. We make plans, but they don’t always come through. We have control over how we deal with life – we can respond or react to life. Life happens, it’s an open book and we need to train or teach our clients and patients how to deal with life by responding rather reacting to what happens to us.

 

 

  Every time we react to situations emotionally, we make mistakes. If you learn to create present moment awareness, it will stop you to regroup and enable you to respond appropriately, that allows you to deal with a situation much more effectively. Otherwise, you will stumble in life. That’s what I learned over the period of time I’ve been in private practice.

 

 

Seth Greene: That is absolutely incredible and great advice. What do you like best about your practice?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: We all must make money to support our families. The most important rewarding experience that I have had is when a patient or a client considers my eyes and says “Doctor, you helped me,” those moments are the most precious moments that I have ever experienced and most precious gift I have ever received from my clients and patients. Those are the moments that I cherish, and I have always felt that the transformation that took place in my life turned me around from becoming an engineer to a helper, still guides me.

 

 

  I try to touch their life to see if I can help them transform their lives. Because we all have moments that are very powerful, they can make a tremendous impact on our lives. And those are the moments that I cherish more than ever.

 

 

Seth Greene: Absolutely. You’ve been in practice for so long and helped so many people and seen so much, what do you attribute your success to?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: Well, my success is the success story of my patients and clients. I am grateful for the opportunity to help them, to be a part of their life, and where my success lies and why I have a profession is all because of them. Because they are there, therefore I am there for them. So my success lies in the success of my clients and my patients. So, I don’t separate myself because my success is not MY success, it is the success of all of us working together and help carry on the purpose of our lives.

 

 

  God put me in this life to help others. I have become an instrument in his ‘hand, and that’s the most verifying feeling one can have, when you help others and you see the enduring changes in their lives.

 

 

  Yesterday, I was talking to one of my patients, and she said, “you know, people are walking up to me and saying ‘You are different. What’s going on?'” She said with a glow in her eyes, “I know a person who has helped me to attain this.” We both had tears in our eyes as she said that. A powerful moment that I experienced with her yesterday afternoon.

 

 

  That’s where my success comes from, Seth, I can’t succeed by myself.

 

 

Seth Greene: That makes a lot of sense. I know you are a published author, can you tell us a little bit about the first book that you wrote?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash:  I published my first book in 2012. It came out of my transformation experience while I was in prison and experiences over time.

 

 

  The story of my transformation is described in much more detail in this book. It’s a personal guide for striving professionals who know where they want to be in life but don’t know how to get there. I offer this book to everybody who comes into my

 

practice as a part of their treatment or coaching program. This book talks about mindfulness meditation as I described earlier, and describes how it will create a path for success over time. Balance on the fast track of life comes not from equal distribution of time in equal parts of your life, but creating harmony in your life. When you are with your family, you are there 100%. That mindfulness, the present moment awareness, will help you to connect with people, and you will be able to create harmony in your life. Harmony can create balance because harmony allows you to synthesize diverse emotions in your life. It’s healthier to strive for synthesis of diverse emotions and healthier to remain in touch with life as it happens.

 

  So, harmony is one of the most important stepping stones as to of how you can maintain focus and continue to go through the fast track of life.

 

 

  I guess you know I’m ninety years of age now, I still function okay and I’m not preaching at people for what I say. This is what I do, so I want you to know that this book describes what I have done all through my life. The book can give you guidance, but along with a personal guide combining with the book can be a more effective way to make sustained changes in your life.

 

 

  Changes are transitory, we accomplish those changes and when we don’t need them, we let them go. But transformation is a change that impacts upon you for the rest of your life, as it happened to me. And it still inspires me through the days of my life. That’s the essence of the book.

 

 

Seth Greene: Where can our listeners go to get a copy of the book and learn more about you?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: The book is available at Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble, and an e-copy is available.

 

 

I am also in the process of writing my autobiography. I have already written about 250 pages and I continue to work on it. The name of the book is, “In Quest of Transformation,” that’s going to come out sometime next year. If you want to know more about the story of my life and supplement some of the information we have discussed today, this book could be helpful.

 

Seth Greene: Okay, this has been Seth Greene with Dr. Om Prakash. Dr. Prakash, what’s your website one more time for us, please?

 

 

Dr. Om Prakash: Website is: coachprakash.com. I also publish a bimonthly podcast; you are welcome to listen to the podcasts. There are about fifty of them.

 

 

Seth. I appreciate the opportunity to talk to you this morning. I hope this will give people an idea who I am and what I do.

 

Seth Greene: Absolutely. Thank you so much for joining us. Thanks everybody for listening, and we’ll talk to you next time.